On the back of reading a very interesting and slightly hitting post (read it here) written by my friend Martyn, it got me thinking about the posts topic 'its OK for men to talk too'.
Across the various media channels from time to time you see posts written about various forms of the writers feelings and levels of depression, but I've hardly ever seen these posts written by men. I'm not saying that there aren't any out there just that to me there very rare.
Surely the men of this world have times in their lives where they feel low and alone, feel like they have no one to talk to, they can't talk to friends, family members or even their own partners because they may see it as a sign of weakness or perhaps they feel others will 'take the piss' for talking about feelings or something like that.
I can honestly say I have been there, I wouldn't say I was depressed by any means I would just say it was a very low and lonely dark place I was in at the time.
We were going through a rocky patch in our marriage and I began to fall into a dark place so much so that at times I felt like I was wearing a mask.
Yes a mask, a happy smiling mask at that, one that showed my kids 'daddy was happy and OK' and one that answered my wifes questions of 'are you OK, you don't seem yourself' with yes dear all is OK, even though it wasn't.
Thankfully though with a few good friends and many hours of talking I came through my darkness, yes looking back now I possibly did possibly burden them with my problems and troubles too much some would say and to that I send them a massive thank you for pulling me through.
So back to post, yes it's important to talk, whoever you are male or female it's good to talk, Martyn'sas they say a problem shared is a problem halved.